We always have a choice, and it all comes down to what we decide we want to do and how we decide we want to impact the life of those around us. Self-reflection helps, but self-assessment is everything. Marita Kassis The notion of being your own knight in shining armor, and standing up for yourself is charming, but the act of doing so is less poetic. It takes not only courage, but a great deal of determination, self worth, and conviction into the woman and person you want to be. Reaching crossroads and crossing bridges are all nice picturesque metaphors to explain change. Enacting it, however, is a whole other story. We dwell so much on the details that sometimes we forget to look at the bigger picture. It is an absolute truth that these small moments take us from one happy snapshot to the other, but what about the undocumented moments in between? So much happens in the background, impacting every move we make, and heightening every mood we’re in, but for some reason, we tend to underestimate them “If it’s not recorded, did it really happen?” People can’t see them anyway, you won’t have to explain them. And so, the mind gets used to brushing off those behind-the-scenes episodes, building a whole wall around it, and moving forward with every other recorded and broadcasted minute. This becomes part of your attitude. This is how you deal with it. Until. The. Walls. Collapse. That’s when the bigger picture stamps itself as a poster in the middle of your vision board. If you didn’t see it before, trust me, it’s splashed right in front of you, up and center. Once you see it, you’re either thrown off-guard because you had no idea it was this bad, or you’ll be happily surprised of how colorful it is. This is not an epiphany or the holy grail of all mysteries. Everyone knows that you fight small battles, they accumulate and they can have a drastic impact. But did you ever take a second to consider why it is that we never stop to reassess what’s behind the wall? Once we settle into a pattern, that might seem comfortable for a specific time, it becomes “safe,” we start an autopilot mode where we navigate the waters by simply floating. We do fight for what we want, every now and then, but most of the time we just follow through, because we’re afraid of clashing, we avoid new unchartered territories. We stay put because knowing where you stand and what you’ll get is better than venturing into the unknown. The pain of the familiar becomes […]
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